Friday, December 11, 2009

The Journey Continues...

A few years ago, I read Toni Morrison's Beloved. It was a powerful book; I found myself unwilling to read anything else for some weeks afterward. Powerful, painful, perfect in itself--nothing else tempted me.

It has been over a month now since I really have done any writing. The grief of loss, the worried concern, the guilt of joy in the midst of others' sorrow...so many feelings beyond the scope of language.

I remember how guilty I felt the first time I ate after my father's death. I also remember the unreasonable dislike I had for the dried flowers a well-meaning friend gave me. Life is relentless. It moves forward.

And today I am excited and happy because I am about to make the four hour drive that will get me to the airport to meet my husband. My daughters and I will sing to our iPods as we travel to my mother's home. They will be writing their Christmas wish-list for me to take as I continue the journey alone.

I will be at the airport gate when his flight arrives. I will cry. I will be happier than I have been for a very long time, in the arms of my beloved.

But I don't think I can forget those who cannot be.

Sunday, November 8, 2009

The Plane was Found

High Flight

Oh! I have slipped the surly bonds of Earth
And danced the skies on laughter-silvered wings;
Sunward I've climbed, and joined the tumbling mirth
Of sun-split clouds, — and done a hundred things
You have not dreamed of — wheeled and soared and swung
High in the sunlit silence. Hov'ring there,
I've chased the shouting wind along, and flung
My eager craft through footless halls of air. . . .

Up, up the long, delirious burning blue
I've topped the wind-swept heights with easy grace
Where never lark, or ever eagle flew —
And, while with silent, lifting mind I've trod
The high untrespassed sanctity of space,
Put out my hand, and touched the face of God.

— John Gillespie Magee, Jr

Saturday, November 7, 2009

Standin' in the Need of Prayer...

This day has passed in a fog of laundry and sundry other little household duties sandwiched between prayers. Poised between dread and hope, we wait for word of my friend's husband. He is a pilot. He flew out of Sioux Lookout yesterday evening with two passengers, bound for Cat Lake. The plane never reached its destination.

Make Me Brave for Life

God, make me brave for life: oh, braver than this.
Let me straighten after pain, as a tree straightens after the rain,
Shining and lovely again.
God, make me brave for life; much braver than this.
As the blown grass lifts, let me rise
From sorrow with quiet eyes,
Knowing Thy way is wise.
God, make me brave, life brings
Such blinding things.
Help me to keep my sight;
Help me to see aright
That out of dark comes light.

-- Author Unknown

Saturday, October 24, 2009

Re-seen...

4:15. I hear the door slam open and my daughter yelling 'It's dad!"

I run to the kitchen, down the stairs and through the open doorway. My view is blocked by the van, and then my eyes meet his over its roof...and as I round the hood of the van, he is standing there, arms around the girls, his first hug-of-return an exact replica of the last.

Except for their faces!

And then we are together and it doesn't matter who is walking or driving past our house because he is warm and here and we are in love.

Thursday, October 22, 2009

One More Get-Up...

This is the 47th day I have woken up alone.

Tomorrow will be the 48th, but it will be different. I will not wake up vaguely confused before heading into a day that feels too tight around me.

I will wake up knowing that today, Day 48, he is waking up and heading onto the highway, coming home. There will be some happy anticipation and anxiety about the driving, and then a careful forgetting so as not to feel the anxiety.

It will be the longest day because he will be so close; it will be the shortest day because I will have so much work to do to meet Monday's deadline and I will not want to bring it home.

I think I may allow myself to cry.

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Be Still...

It had been a nightmare day, the culmination of too much to do in too little time.

And then a staff meeting that stretched to 4:30, swift walk home to make early dinner grilled cheese sandwiches and into the van at 4:55 to get to the sports store to buy a helmet and get the face mask attached, drop the happy daughter at home and be at my discernment meeting for 5:30.

I arrived on time, but did not feel prepared. This meeting, which should have been the centrepiece of my day, felt like another box to be ticked off.

I was thinking this as I headed into the house to pick up the daughter for her practice. Somehow I had missed the fact that my mom's car was in the driveway--but there she was, sitting on the couch, chatting with the girls. It was good to get a hug from her, good to have her sitting next to me in the cold arena, sharing our pride in my daughter as we watched her skating and stick handling improve by the minute.

A skype visit with my husband, conversation with my other daughter, and a vain attempt to wrest an hour of tv watching into the end of my day...I crawled to bed at 11:40 and slept.

And woke at 5.

I had talked about relaxing into God, letting go and trusting, and how so much of these past months has felt like being carried along on a rushing river. After so much tumult of the spirit in deciding to enter discernment, I now felt nothing...I was on a still pond. No wind in my sails, no sense of direction. Just a sense that my life is fraudulent, that there is an entire dimension of self that is being neglected as I move through my work. This job has come to a standstill.

And I thought/heard: Be still.............and know that I am God.

Be still, and know that I am God.

The lessons continue.

Thursday, October 1, 2009

A New Lesson

I have been moving clumsily through my life these past few weeks.

When a hydrant down the street was replaced, we were put on a 'boil water' advisory for a week; last Wednesday I realized that our fridge was broken. I do not regret for a moment my role change at work, but there is a steep learning curve for some of the changes that have occurred since I last did the job. Add to this my daughter's decision to learn a new sport which requires (to my performing arts mind-set) intricate full-body armour about which I know nothing and the stage is set. I have needed help.

I have recognized my need, set aside my pride, asked for help and received it. I had no idea that accepting acts of kindness from other people would make me feel so connected to community.

What have I been missing by trying to be so self-contained?

Sunday, September 20, 2009

If It Be Your Will

"Would you be willing to sing that song you like during the offering on Sunday?"

One moment of hesitation, then "Sure!"

I met my mother-in-law at the church on Saturday morning and opened myself to singing "If It Be Your Will". The piano arrangement was lilting and lovely; I did my best to do justice to the song that has meant so much to me. I was not sure that I would be able to sing it without tears. Nor was I sure that our congregation would identify with "let your mercy spill on these burning hearts in hell, if it be your will to make us well". To all appearances, they are a well-adjusted and pleasant-looking group of pew-warmers.

And so I sang, and did not cry, and then came the unexpected news, and shock, denial, anger.

"Draw us near, and bind us tight, all your children here in their rags of light...in our rags of light, all dressed to kill, and end this night...if it be your will."

Thursday, September 10, 2009

Another breath taken

The highly structured day in which I work has been a blessing. So too its pace. There has been no time to think beyond the needs of those around me for whom I am responsible.

At work, I am off-balance. I am struggling for the bigger picture, but my brain is foggy with lack of sleep as I adjust to the shifts in our personal lives.

I have killed spiders; I have helped with math homework; I have listened and listened and hugged and listened. I have loyally enthused with the rightful recipients of my loyalty and enthusiasm. I have realized that having only one bathroom in a three-female household isn't the problem, it is having only one blow-dryer. Two more are on order. I have gone to the sports section of Canadian Tire and purchased equipment for my budding ringette player, and helped the paper-deliverer to sort out the problem of delivering 46 papers to 47 houses.

And that was just today, before I got to choir practice. Where, finally, I took a little breath and felt the music begin its return.

Saturday, September 5, 2009

Sending Him Off...

Posing in the garden....

It has been a whirlwind of school start-up and 'this-needs-to-be-done-before-you-go'.

Months' worth of garbage tags have been purchased; the air filters changed; the lawn mowed; the barbecue put away; and the jeans and t-shirt I'd set aside to wear to work on dress-down Friday retrieved from his suitcase after ten frantic minutes of searching.

He cooked us breakfast: perfect bacon and eggs and sausage. The girls surprised him with a present: a Dragon Lance book called The Anvil of Time and a Subway card. He was hoping to be on the road by 9:00...but it was 10:00 when the wheels of his Corolla rolled out of the driveway.


...one last hug....

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

A little realization...



When you dance with the Spirit, you don't get to lead.

Wednesday, August 5, 2009

To take another breath

The in-the-moment realities of a family on a road-trip vacation helped to push away thoughts of the changes coming upon us--even when a chunk of that vacation was put to use in finding my husband a place to live and sorting out his courses for the up-coming year.

I haven't wanted to see anyone. I haven't wanted to talk to anyone. I haven't been able to sing.

Yesterday, my daughters insisted that we have a family movie night. Lord of the Rings...with a break for popcorn once Frodo was safely at Rivendell. While one popped three bags, the other set out four bowls, a seasoning station, and prepared butter for the butter lovers and margerine for those who prefer it. They worked well as a team. We talked about this becoming a weekly event, even when it will just be 'we three'.

I found myself able to pick up my guitar again, but my throat is still closed to the music. I need to take another breath.

Sunday, July 26, 2009

And the road trip continues.....

The girls are asleep and I'm on my second cup of coffee here in Moose Jaw. We were disappointed in Calgary to learn that the pool was closed...so we watched two movies in the room and ordered pizza. 17 Again and Race to Witch Mountain. Xtine contacted us on Facebook to invited us to breakfast...and we accepted.


It wasn't easy, but we did finally get everybody into the picture and looking in the general direction of the camera! The pancakes, strawberries, blueberries and cherries held us until Medicine Hat...and Warner read to us from a Dragon Lance book. We stopped at this place in Medicine Hat which, unfortunately, didn't have a bathroom...but we eventually got everything taken care of!





Back into the van for the drive to Moose Jaw...Warner read aloud to us to the end of the book--about 4 hours worth. Obviously, I was the driver!

Friday, July 24, 2009

I am watching my breath in the dawn, at a picnic table close to the transmitting antennae hoping that the internet connection holds....trucks are going by on the highway, happy that no tourists are in their way, taking pictures of wildlife. Warner, Abby and Liz are sleeping in our little cabin, but in the distance there is an ancient chinese couple, wandering their campsite. We met in the bathroom at 5:21 a.m.

Here is a picture of Abby on our swing right after we checked in on the 21st:


and here are the girls in their bunks...


Warner happy in the camp kitchen:


Our first sighting of the local fauna--across from the coal mine on the way to Cadomin:


It's hot in Jasper...

but the girls find a way to cool off....


I love these flowers:


and the girls love the Miette Hot Springs...


I just lost the photo of Athabasca Falls I was about to post, but my fingers are too cold to keep typing and I just saw Warner poke his head out of the cabin...we don't have coffee, but at 8:00 I'll be able to get a cup in the office...

Monday, July 20, 2009

Road Trip! Day 4


Checked out of the hotel and headed to St. Andrews....


Warner is about to meet with his faculty advisor...


Interesting trees on this campus!



Abby: "This place is inspirational outside, but too schooly on the inside."

While Warner has his meeting, we look for some place to eat...we meet a nice lady who shows us the way to the hospital cafeteria.

We want to leave for Edmonton, but decide it is probably a good idea to check out a couple of rooms for rent. The two within walking distance are already taken...but the third works out, and Warner writes a cheque for first and last months' rent.



And now, to Edmonton!



It's kind of windy today in Battleford! We stop in Lloyminster to buy topdogs and oranges, then stop in Mannville to pull out the coleman stove. Warner cooks them to perfection!




Two appreciative hotdog lovers and their dad:



When it is discovered that there is a spider on mom's side of the car, we pull over at the next rest stop: Inisfree. Dad takes care of the beast while the girls stalk prairie dogs for photos...


We are now safely in our room at the Westin...can't believe how much was accomplished today.

Lion King tomorrow!

Sunday, July 19, 2009

Road Trip! Day 3




After a good sleep-in, we headed to the mall. We need to see Harry Potter!









"Three adults, one child for Harry Potter, please!"










Cool costumes from Shakespeare productions catch the eye...










and so does this candy store!








Then a good browse at Indigo, where Ellen buys a volume of Collins' poetry, Warner buys a copy of Saveur (Texas BBQ issue), Elizabeth buys Crank, and Abby finds a copy of the next Nicholas Flammel book The Sorceress, but decides to save her money for something else.




An early dinner, so we can see a second movie.

Elizabeth pronounces this the best cheesecake she's ever had.






Ellen declares this Ice Age movie the best of the three!



Home to the hotel after a drive around St. Andrews and the University campus so Daddy can see where he's going tomorrow...Abby reading The Magician...






while Liz ends the day with Archie.....and Warner is on-line dealing with bursary applications.








A good day, a good trip so far!

Saturday, July 18, 2009

Road Trip! Day 2

Liz is excited--she has prepared a pot of coffee for the first time.

Thank goodness--this was the WORST place on the planet this morning to be served anything!








On the road again...after we FINALLY get a very mediocre breakfast from a frazzled and confused staff...






Bought some ham, cheese and buns in Russell, MB, then had a lovely picnic in Langenberg, SK.









And Warner calls Chris to tell him the (un)employment news.








Liz buys a special t-shirt with her birthday money at the tourist info centre.

"Saskatchewan: hard to spell, easy to draw."

Abby: "Here's where we're going." Liz: "Here's where we are." Liz falls in love with reading maps....Abby begins a brochure collection.


Classic Saskatchewan--view from the van when we stopped for a coffee and got it free of charge at a little gas station. (So we bought a chocolate bar and a package of skittles to go with them.)

Thank you town of Theodore, population 489.

The drive continues....
Finally, Saskatoon. After a tour up and down the highway, we locate the hotel and head out for supper. FANTASTIC pizza! Classic pepperoni for Abby... Chicken Cordon Bleu for Warner...

while Liz and Mom had 'for smaller appetite' plates of chicken, caesar salad, potatoes...










which meant that Abby and Liz had to wait a bit before heading to the pool.




Friday, July 17, 2009

Road Trip! Day 1



Drove under cloud cover for miles and miles and miles...then....sunlight on our faces for the first time in days....












...which made EVERYone happy, including Galadrial and Cutie-Anne....







....all to the sounds of Abby's 99 song playlist...featuring Taylor Swift, and then a little more Taylor Swift, and then Boys Like Girls, Paramore, selections from High School Musical and Camp Rock, Medieval Babes, the Cheetah Girls, K-Naan and, of course, a good rousing all-womenfolk-in-the-van-join-in-sing-a-long to Total Eclipse of the Heart!


Just past Portage La Prairie on the junction to the Yellowhead. Long drive to Saskatoon tomorrow.

Happy times!

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

The Threshold


A year ago, as we packed for our family vacation, I had no idea that we would spend an amazing afternoon in Archibald, Manitoba, moving through the rooms of two houses in which Nellie McClung had lived.

This front entrance to the McClung home leads straight to the small room in which Nellie wrote. She had a room of her own, within a busy household as wife, mother, and crusader for social justice.

A turn to the left takes you to the stairway to the bedrooms, a turn to the right takes you to the parlour.

We are at a threshold now. It will not matter which way we turn as we cross it--our needs will be met.

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Who Knew?

Who knew, as I worked through the shift in my professional role, that I needed more than anything a lesson in letting go?

Who knew, when we arranged our family vacation, that my husband's job was about to disappear?

Who knew that our scheduled stop in Saskatoon would turn into an opportunity to meet with a faculty advisor?

Who knew that I would feel a sense of excitement, knowing we have been pushed out of our rut?

Who knew that our complacency would be shattered, as it should be?

Who knew that it would feel so right to be committing these plans to action?

Who knew?

Sunday, June 28, 2009

"Everything I needed to know I learned from songs on the radio" Part 2

1963: I am standing on the kitchen steps. My mom is hanging laundry on the clothesline. Through the screen door I hear it again: the song! I want to sing this song. More than anything, I want to sing this song. Its sinuous melody touches something sharp and sweet within me. But I do not know what the words are and I cannot capture the tune with my four year old voice. My mom tells me that the man is singing in Japanese. I don't know what that means, but there is something in his voice that I hear in my dad's voice sometimes when he sings.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OhZl7-8j7S0

At times in years since I have felt a feather-touch of some uncapturable sweetness, a sharp beauty that swoops close for a moment and is gone, an otherness, an ache of inarticulate joy...rare and fleeting...

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

"Everything I needed to know I learned from songs on the radio" Part 1

1964: I am standing at the window, watching the birds eat the berries from the mountain ash. I am transfixed by the song on the radio: four strong winds that blow lonely, seven seas that run high, all those things that don't change come what may... I do not know where Alberta is, but I do not think he will be happy there...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ql6iQdpRgc

but we've been through that a hundred times or more

This Alberta is an emotional rainshadow. Exhausted by argument and exhortation, it is already too late now, if she does change her mind. There will be no spring from their winter.

1990: A bus pulls away and the girl walks down Bloor, from Bathurst to Bay. Desolation.







Friday, June 19, 2009

Thursday, June 11, 2009

Three Times

As the deadline drew near, three times, by three different people: Are you sure you do not want to apply for this job?

Much of me did want to reapply: so much of my identity entwined in what I have been doing. Have I done the right thing for the right reasons? I believe so.

I know that the Spirit guided the facilitator when she selected the opening prayer for the first discernment meeting.

"God, my Source of Strength:
A season is turning in my life
Calling me to make ready:
Walk with me, I pray.

This unmapped course lies divided ahead
Urging careful determination:
Walk with me, I pray.

The gate has swung open and everything's loose
Bidding that something be left behind:
Walk with me, I pray.

Until the turbulent waters clear
I reach for your mercy
and pray for wisdom:
Walk with me, I pray.

Amen"*

The gate has, indeed swung open. I know what I think I am leaving behind. We shall see.


*This prayer comes from Keri K. Wehlanders's wonderful book Circles of Grace: Worship and Prayer in the Everyday, The United Church Publishing House ISBN 1-55134-080-1

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Today!

And today, Jonah stands up, brushes off the dust, and heads to the first discernment meeting.

Thursday, June 4, 2009

A Little Morning Music...

Looking back, I can see that each significant change in my life has sparked a short period of shut-down, a time of withdrawal...I gather the loose threads, tying or cutting as needed, and find myself moving back through my collection of music.

Thirty years ago, this would have been accomplished cross-legged on the floor close to one of the speakers, carefully placing each cherished piece of vinyl on the turntable, singing along to the lyrics on the album cover. iTunes has changed the surface structure of this experience for me. And so has the 'net.

Googling a dimly remembered phrase from a childhood memory enabled me to find the first song I ever remember singing along to on that battered old pink kitchen radio: "Please don't talk to the lifeguard, please don't talk to the lifeguard...guess I'll swim way out into the sea and then he'll have to swim out there to rescue me..." "Don't ever do that," said my mom, as I perched on the counter singing and watching her measure flour for cookies. "Never pretend to drown..."

I now live in a world where I can be watching an episode of Chuck, hear a song I like, and have it tracked down and in my iTunes in an hour.

This ease has worked in my favour these past few days as I have compiled a new playlist for this moment in my time...and today I greet the morning with it.

Morning has Broken, Cat Stevens; That Lucky Old Sun, Louis Armstrong; Please, Please, Let Me Get What I Want, The Smiths; Different Drum, Stone Poneys; You Belong to Me, Jason Wade; Songs from the Wood, Jethro Tull; So What, Pink; The Circle Game, Joni Mitchell; Many Rivers to Cross, Jimmy Cliff; Redemption Song, Bob Marley; Dream a Little Dream of Me, The Mamas and the Papas; Everybody Hurts, R.E.M.; Boulevard of Broken Dreams, Green Day; 100 Years, Five for Fighting; Forever Young, Joan Baez...and the Reflection song from Mulan....of course!

Monday, June 1, 2009

Turning the Page

Today I put together two pages of quotations, images and poetry that will become part of a scrapbook to honour a woman's retirement. As I worked, I was reminded of my father and the quilts that I made for my brother, my mother and myself from his shirts after his death. They are heirlooms, born of love as I worked through my grief.

Somehow, the skills that work for me in quilting disappeared when it came to these two pages. Colours and shapes, words and images, wriggled and resisted my desire to encapsulate the six years I have worked with her.

These have been extraordinary years of personal growth...much of which has been due to her direction or to the opportunities and challenges she lay before me. Her retirement coincides with the ending of the role I have held in my professional life. I wanted to make certain that what I was creating was a tribute to her--not simply an expression of closure for me.

As I worked, I realized that the two were, necessarily, the same.





Thursday, May 21, 2009

A date?

One month has passed since the members of the committee were established...and it appears that we may actually now have a date for the first meeting.

I think, however, I will save my 'sigh of relief' for the moment before I enter the room....

Poor old Jonah! All the turmoil of the voyage and the swallowing and the spitting out...sitting under my tree confounded by the loose ends of red tape and the busynesses of daily life.

Saturday, May 2, 2009

and here we go....?

Sigh.

It seems to be about hurrying up to wait.

Sometimes it is easier to herd cats than to set dates for meetings.

It is evident that I have lessons to learn in patience.

Monday, April 20, 2009

Here we Go

Christ is Risen!
He is Risen indeed!

The two Presbytery Reps have been named. The Discernment Committee is in place.

Here we go!

Monday, March 30, 2009

50

50.

I have attained the age of 50.

At 10 I had friends and no doubts, loved horses, and the best thing in the world to do was curl up in that comfy turquoise chair, eating oranges while I read myths and legends and fairy tales.

At 20 I had love and no doubts, having journeyed through the darkness of loss and betrayal and into the light. I loved poetry and music and the best thing in the world to do was dance and dance and dance, Sex Pistols or Glen Miller, Violent Femmes or Gladys Knight, just dance.

At 30 I had a job and no doubts, my chance at love was over and I would wear comfortable shoes and drink dry gin martinis. I loved being the quirky Drama/English teacher and the best thing in the world was to read on Saturday all through the day and dance all Saturday night.

At 40 I had a loving husband, two precious daughters and no doubts, a solid career, and the best thing in the world was to speak my mind.

And now I am fifty.

50.

Monday, February 23, 2009

My Third Sermon

Okay, this is starting to feel real.

I delivered my third sermon yesterday: "Running the Race to Win". I knew instantly when I read 1 Corinthians 9: 24 - 27 that it would be the textual base for my sermon.

The title was printed in the bulletin; the bulletin was printed and copied and ready for distribution. The sermon was a series of notations on some scraps of paper in my purse.

Why do I need to reach some sort of critical mass before these things are accomplished?

I had just finished reading The Book of Negroes. From my experience of that reading, a blog entry by someone named Mark Wilson, the lyrics to the anthem the choir would be singing, a note on Wikipedia about child labour and cocoa, a sentence my husband read to me in the middle of his phone call to me from his conference, and my own personal history, emerged something that I had to trust was the right message at the right time.

I think I am only just beginning to realize the implications of what it means to be called.

Despite my worries over not being in control of the service (I was called upon by the UCW to do the Kingdom's Kids and the sermon, while others chose the hymns and provided the prayers), everything meshed...well...perfectly.

I think I am only just beginning to realize the freedom of releasing control.

Because I am pleased with it, here is my third sermon.

"When I first looked over the lectionary readings for this Sunday, the passage that Pat has read for us stopped me in my tracks.

"Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize."

Run the race to win? What about 'the last shall be first', 'walk humbly with the Lord', 'lay up your treasure in heaven'? The Christian messaging of my childhood hadn't left much room for the idea of running to win. This was something I really had to think about.

"Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last; but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. Therefore I do not run like a man running aimlessly; I do not fight like a man beating the air."

Okay, as analogies go, this is making sense. I'd have to live under a rock somewhere to not understand that being an athlete requires self-discipline and rigorous training. And no matter how nutritious my diet, how strictly I adhered to my workouts, if I did not run with purpose, on the course, I would never reach the finish line of the race--and if I punch blindly at the air, I'm not going to win my boxing match, either.

Paul's audience in Corinth would have no trouble with this analogy. Corinth had been the site of the Isthmian games for four or five hundred years--these were games that were part of the Olympiad cycle, and occured every two years. They knew that the crowns awarded to the winners were made of wild celery or pine--unlike the Kingdom of God, these are things that tend to wilt.

As Christians, we know that God's grace is made manifest through Jesus the Christ. In the language of my Baptist up-bringing, we are 'saved' simply by accepting this. So, haven't we already 'won' the prize? What is this whole 'race' thing about?

We hear so many people talk about their various experiences as 'journeys' that it's become a cliche. In a blog entry, Mark Wilson writes: "In a well-lived life, there is a sense of progression; moving from one thing to the next. There is visible growth and the deepening of character. But the extent to which we grow (or indeed whether we grow at all) is up to us. What will our attitude be? consider that the journey is, in fact, a race" He goes to to say that there are three ways we can experience the race: watch the race; run the race; or run the race to win.

I have to admist that being a spectator might look pretty tempting at times. If you're a spectator, you get to sit back and watch the athletes, critique their performances, maybe talk to other spectators about how so-an-so needs to pay more attention to his training...better yet, you can even complain about things like the salaries, the role of performance-enhancing drugs...

We can be pretty bold and confident as a spectator. And you don't lose, either.

In Wilson's view, "to be a spectator and not a runner is to miss out on the blessing that God has for us."

I spent a lot of years as a spectator. If someone asked me about my religious beliefs, I would say 'Christian'. I attended church at Christmas and Easter, and sometimes in between. I knew what Christianity was and had a whole lot of opinions on whether or not other people could consider themselves to be Christians.

You see, I knew all about it because I started out as a runner--active in Sunday School, the youth group, the choir...I knew first-hand the power of prayer and my Bible was full of underlined verses....In the race I was running, the prize, the crown, was eternal life, and all I had to do was make sure I accepted Jesus as my Saviour and endure all the suffering that was going to come my way.

Well, you know, there wasn't a lot of suffering coming my way. I didn't have any raging waters or burning deserts to cross. We were good people, living decently 'by the Book', fitting effortlessly into the dominant culture. It was easy to be in the race, because that was the status quo in my community. There didn't seem to be much difference between the racers and the spectators...and that made it easy for me, when other racers who I admired disappointed me, to look at them as hypocrites and slip into spectator mode.

For the past 20 years, I have been an active participant again. I have been running the race, but I'm not at all certain that I have been 'running it to win'. I have learned that for me, the surest way to stumble in my own lane is when I stop to look at how other racers are doing in theirs...Aesop's hare would have won his race if he hadn't measured--and judged--the tortoise by his own standards.

I don't want to be running aimlessly, so I need to see the finish line. If I am to run with purpose, I need to know what that purpose is. Is the goal of my race to stay in my lane? Is it about doing my utmost to follow a prescription of ways to behave, to live a decent and culturally appropriate life? Is it about being nice to people, making sure there is an envelop in the collection basket, sponsoring a child in Africa?

That's not the race that Jesus ran.

Jesus' vision was the Kingdom of God. It was more important for Him to heal someone than to keep the law of the Sabbath. He worked with purpose, self-discipline and conviction. To say that He shook up the status quo is an understatement: the direct consequence of His decisions was a criminal's death on a cross. He ran to win, and did.

What would it look like if I was running to win, to fulfill Christ's vision of the Kingdom of God?

I have more questions about this now than answers. If I had been living in England in 1780, I would know about the slave trade. Would I have continued to stir sugar into my tea, knowing its human cost? Or would I have been pleased to know that those who survived the horrors of the slave ships were being converted to Christianity and used that as justification...for my tea, my coffee, my sugar, and that beautiful indigo dye...

I will never know the answer to that..I think I would have switched to honey, as many abolitionists did...but here are qustions I have for myself today: Of the 200,000 children working in the Ivory Coast cocoa industry, the International Labour Organisation claims 6%" that's not bad, really, only 12,000 kids--may be victims of slavery. Cadburys, Hershey's, Nestle--these companies are not operating in ignorance of these facts. Amd I'm sure that people can make arguments justifying their action or inaction--probably based on the economics of physical survival rather than on 'soul-saving' as in times past. "At least they have food and shelter..."

When I gave my family Hershey's kisses on Valentine's Day, was I racing to win?

Am I racing to win when I tolerate injustice? (and isn't it a lot easier to see injustice from a distance, and not in our hometown?) Am I racing to win when I allow Christ's death and resurrection to be used to legitimize suffering and the passive acceptance of the cultural status quo? Am I racing to win when I stop to judge how others are running their races?

God has promised to be with me when I cross the raging waters and burning deserts. But I won't be crossing them unless I stop running aimlessly. Jesus said 'Come, follow me'. I can't do that by just running on the spot. I won't be fit to do that without thinking about my beliefs, questioning why I have them, in an honest, open, prayerful dialogue with God, keeping my eyes on Christ's vision.

We each have our own marathon.

It is up to each of us to decide: watch the race? Run the race? Run the race to win?

May God be with us in each of our choices."

Friday, February 13, 2009

Farewell, Faithful Fish

It was a solemn scene.

While three of us attended choir practice, my younger daughter stayed home to prepare an order of service and respectfully dressed herself in black. Upon our return, she led the family to the bathroom. As pallbearer, I followed with the fishbowl. A large turquoise towel now covered the great porcelain bowl.

She opened with a short tribute to Preston B. Sturgeon, our beloved goldfish, then had us sing 'As the deer pants'. It was my privilege to lead us in prayer, and we did so, holding hands around the fishbowl. Each of us said a few words of farewell to honour the deceased. Then the girls left the room, and my husband ceremoniously removed the turqoise towel and sent Preston on his final journey.

The tears of my daughters over the death of this little pet were wiped away by the comfort of ritual and their knowledge that they had acted rightly to observe this passing. I know that I will never be able to relate this story without a certain quirk at the corners of my mouth; I also know that in standing in that little family circle in the bathroom, we were in the thin place near to God.

Friday, February 6, 2009

A Shady Moment
















Refuge from the heat on an August day; another moment's refuge today.

Over and above the clutter on my desk and in my head, the Fern Hill of Dylan Thomas....

"And nothing I cared, at my sky blue trades, that time allows
In all his tuneful turning so few and such morning songs
Before the children green and golden
Follow him out of grace..."

If it be your will...to let me sing! rivetted to my broken hill by Anthony & Leonard